Honestly, I used to feel the same. But now… Not so much.
Shitty childhoods often develop into isolating behaviors. Isolating behaviors keep you from connecting with other people. Those people often give you hell, because you don’t have the skills to connect and they’re afraid of you. Which means you learn behaviors to keep others away from you.



A reason is literally an excuse.
If every time your parents offered you ice cream as a child, they beat the hell out of you, you’d soon start associating ice cream with with abuse. You’d expect it, as a matter of survival.
When you got older, someone offering you ice cream would trigger that fight or flight mechanism.
Mitigation is quite literally freedom from one consequence, in place of another.