I see your point about distraction from the matter, and I agree there. At the same time I am very bothered by the media coverage saying pedophile 99% of the time. Because, as you have mentioned in your first two paragraphs, pedophilia is a disorder, and not every pedophile/ephebophile/hebephile is an offender or consumes CSM. They should be calling them child rapists, sex offenders who raped minors, whatever. At least in Epstein’s case you can reasonably assume he did, indeed, have a sexual disorder, I’m not sure if it is true for all his clients. But they all are child sex offenders, there is no doubt about that.

Language matters. The last decade was putting such an emphasis on this, but with this case a lot of people seem to agree that “language distracts”. Let it be vague, everyone knows what is meant. Don’t distract from the important matter by being specific about the words you use. Well, I disagree, and I disagree not because it is ephebophilia or hebephilia, I disagree because a) It’s not about the …philia, it is about the offenses committed, and thus b) there are more precise terms that should be used in this case, and these terms (child rapist, statutory rape, child sex trafficker, etc) sound much harsher anyway. Also c) you are working against the interest of non offending pedophiles here and dismantle any awareness there is about everything you had pointed out above. Language matters for them as well.

I’m lucky enough to have a very bland, healthy sexual orientation and preference, but I do have a kid, and God knows I want to protect her from harm.

For this, I need people who are attracted to minors to be open about it, and they won’t be if we run with torches after them for just their orientation, or if we keep calling every person who offended a minor a pedophile. They won’t be open or seek help, and the discourse right now is incredibly counterproductive.

I also need people to be more aware that about half of sex offenses concerning minors are committed by people who have no attraction dysfunction. If it were so easy as to just “remove all the pedophiles” to stop child sex offenses.

So, in my opinion, the response to “ackshually he’s not a pedophile” should be “you’re right, he sex trafficked and raped minors. Better now?”

Then you’re definitely not from the Munich area

Looking back to my first 20 years I wonder why tf we all thought it’s a great idea to bike through storms and blizzards instead of just walking

That could be me at 18 years, 3:30 am, with way too much alcohol in my blood going home from the sbahn station after clubbing

Absolutely. Even if I make pizza from scratch with whole wheat flour and homemade sauce, the amount of vegetables I can reasonably put in/on it is so limited. If I want to mimic a typical pizza as it is served in Germany, I need about 2 mushrooms for the whole thing. Even with the sauce, there is just so much sauce I can put on the dough - and so many veggies I can put on it - before it just becomes a soaky pie. And this is nowhere near a ratio I can really approve of. Our usual dishes consist of 50-80% vegetables. With pizza, I feel like we are just eating 50-80% dough.

Just because whole wheat is good, tomato sauce is good, veggies are good, and a bit of cheese is good, doesn’t mean the combo of it is anywhere near balanced and healthy. We usually balance it with a huge salad but honestly we just don’t like filling up on bread/dough, so we rarely eat pizza.

Can someone brave enough please FINALLY post the eventual tier list he comes up with

Well I mean… A colorblind student at our university once pointed out that red green blindness causes you to see red laser pointers worse than green ones, and he had trouble seeing where it is being pointed at. Our prof got a green one the next day and has been using it ever since.

There are also several color schemes that are disability friendly so that charts (diagrams and stuff) can be better read by colorblind people.

So, the analogy doesn’t really work. Colorblind people get to dictate color schemes because that is how inclusion and a low barrier society works. Or am I missing the joke here?

I’m in my city’s Share&Care chat and you wouldn’t believe how many people keep asking for sound cancelling headphones for their babies because they want to go to some concert

Baby carriers are expensive xD

That’s moronic, not gonna lie, but I just want to say, man, being the first one in my friend group to have had a kid, it was bonkers what I was invited to, with all seriousness. Concerts, house parties, clubs,… When I pointed out I have a 3 week old baby it was “just leave it with their dad for the night!” When I told them it was a fully breastfed baby it was “oh then just bring the baby! It’ll be fun!” When I tried to point out that I am exhausted, recovering, and am using any minute that I don’t tender to the baby to sleep - as did my partner - I got “oh wow I thought they mostly sleep lol, well ok then maybe next week at that other house party at the other end of the city? It will be full of people you don’t know and it starts at 10 pm, there will be beer but you can bring some hard liquor!”

So, to heavily play devil’s advocate, maybe these are new parents that were pressured into being cool and staying the same despite having a baby… By outsiders or by themselves.

Why aren’t Normies speaking up

I’m the most bland person you’ll ever meet and I kept all my CDs and DVDs. I would never buy something only as digital/cloud format that I couldn’t burn on a disc. It gave me anxiety from the beginning. I have multiple external storages with the same copies of photos and I still print the most precious ones out. I’ll have music and memories if the internet ever breaks down, I just need a power generator.

I also absolutely don’t see physical copies of books, music, or movies, as clutter. Booklets in CDs are to die for, and I think it makes for great room decor. If I burn a CD I usually make some collage artwork as a cover to accompany the disc.

I am so awkward and clumsy at self checkout that I absolutely need the human interaction with a cashier, and I am faster that way. By far. The thought of not having cashiers is giving me anxiety

Oh can I chime in with a question as well?

What is that “and then there’s this fucking asshole” muscle? Because from the location that is exactly the asshole that got me hospitalized twice for intercostal neuralgia - once with an ambulance ride, highest doses of morphine (didn’t ease the pain and made me very sick and whiny), and an x ray because they assumed I had broken a rib bone.

When I had my third attack I recognized it was that fucking thing again and that I could do nothing but wait it out for two days. I also realized there is a connection to emotional distress and it probably has a big psychosomatic factor. I hadn’t had a big attack in years but when I get distressed I still get pain in that stripe next to my spine. It gets tense just writing this out and remembering.

I’ve given birth and with the biggest honesty and calm asked my partner to kill me during labor. The intercostal neuralgia was about 2% less painful than childbirth and I didn’t end up with a cute baby afterwards so it’s really not worth the pain. It’s cramping up to a point that I think the muscle will rip, then it goes away. After a couple of seconds again, cramp, can’t breathe, can’t talk, gone. For days. Nowadays it’s usually not that bad that I cannot breathe but WHAT IS THIS FUCKER and what can I do to strengthen it and, more importantly, to actively relax it?

For real, I am even calling over friends for help to set up a Windows PC or a printer. I have absolutely no idea about technology and computers. I want something easy and mainstream because this way I have an easier time getting support. Two steps are one step too much. I have a lot of strengths but understanding tech is definitely not one of them. And frankly, I neither have the time nor interest to learn anything about it. I have a great respect for linux and I have fond memories of playing a game on my dad’s computer, but it’s not something that’s for me.

Are you friends with Dave?

It’s interesting you point that out. It seems it shows the grip of Reddit and Lemmy as well. Since I am not in the US I am not in touch with their regular news outlets and media. I’ve never seen the Dem shooter before. Somehow he wasn’t that talked about.

Bottom left is the Trump shooter, bottom right the alleged Kirk shooter. No clue who the upper left dude is

You live in Germany don’t you

Congrats, you perfectly missed the point of the message you replied to.

Maybe your nephew gets the iPad all the time and that messed up his frustration tolerance. Ok. You might have a closer inside to how he is parented. When you see someone outside with a kid on an iPad you cannot know these things about them. Whatever it looks like to you, you’re judging strangers based on a one point observation.

I mean, the dick punch was really unnecessary but I am glad that other families experience… Weirdness, I guess. And exclusion of a parent.

I can’t count how often I read and heard the advice to “just present your kid with two options to choose from”.

My kid, even before she became verbal, always wanted option C when presented with two options.

“Do you want this hat or this cap?” “Neither”

“Do you want this blue pants or these red sweatpants?” “I want… a green… dress” we don’t even have a green dress.

“Shall we go to the zoo today or do you want to go to the playground with Anna?” “I want to go on the trampoline” .

I’m confused, this isn’t loss