Avoiding my calls because verbal conversations make you anxious? Fair enough, I will spend an embarrassingly long time to write, re-read, delete, re-write, re-read several times, re-delete, re-write a third time by blending versions one and two, re-read and realize I didn’t explain something, re-write and realize that something else is irrelevant, re-read and realize it wasn’t irrelevant because two paragraphs later etc. until I have a message that can’t possibly be misread, send it, and then agonize about writing something that was misread until I hear back from you while pathologically refreshing my inbox.
Saying you can’t talk now but scheduling a time for me later? Totally fair, you have a whole ass job outside of my stupid problems, if they can wait I will wait and if they can’t I’ll go back to paragraph 1.
Avoiding my calls because you think I’m dumb but won’t just tell me how I’m being dumb so I can try to make improvements? Congrats, my new work project is making your work life a living hell until you either quit or schedule a call with me where we can discuss preferred communication styles and how to demonstrate mutual respect.
According to my recollection, you accepted full responsibility and pledged to do better going forward. You also promised not to embezzle any of the company’s money going forward, which was a weird thing to say unprompted.
I’m hearing that my summary won’t be helpful, so I don’t need to spend my time on this request, which certainly works for me. You are, of course, welcome to take any notes for yourself that you would find helpful, and I would be happy to review those if you would like.
Thanks for your time!
e; wait, in this scenario am I a supervisor giving you orders you have to follow or a coworker making a request for some information? I was assuming the second option, but yeah if I were your boss and had any ability to punish you for not following my orders I would absolutely put them in writing.
Avoiding my calls because verbal conversations make you anxious? Fair enough, I will spend an embarrassingly long time to write, re-read, delete, re-write, re-read several times, re-delete, re-write a third time by blending versions one and two, re-read and realize I didn’t explain something, re-write and realize that something else is irrelevant, re-read and realize it wasn’t irrelevant because two paragraphs later etc. until I have a message that can’t possibly be misread, send it, and then agonize about writing something that was misread until I hear back from you while pathologically refreshing my inbox.
Saying you can’t talk now but scheduling a time for me later? Totally fair, you have a whole ass job outside of my stupid problems, if they can wait I will wait and if they can’t I’ll go back to paragraph 1.
Avoiding my calls because you think I’m dumb but won’t just tell me how I’m being dumb so I can try to make improvements? Congrats, my new work project is making your work life a living hell until you either quit or schedule a call with me where we can discuss preferred communication styles and how to demonstrate mutual respect.
Sure, we can have that call right now. After the call, I’ll ask you to summarize the follow-up steps in an email
According to my recollection, you accepted full responsibility and pledged to do better going forward. You also promised not to embezzle any of the company’s money going forward, which was a weird thing to say unprompted.
And this is why I only take requests in full text from the start, so thanks for proving my point for me.
I’m hearing that my summary won’t be helpful, so I don’t need to spend my time on this request, which certainly works for me. You are, of course, welcome to take any notes for yourself that you would find helpful, and I would be happy to review those if you would like.
Thanks for your time!
e; wait, in this scenario am I a supervisor giving you orders you have to follow or a coworker making a request for some information? I was assuming the second option, but yeah if I were your boss and had any ability to punish you for not following my orders I would absolutely put them in writing.
You’re probably right to assume the second option, since I can’t imagine you being a very competent supervisor with takes like these